Exaggerated expressions accentuate and intensify afflicted emotions. Don’t say “I adore this food” or “I love this car” when a simple “I like” is enough to describe your emotional relationship with a mere object. Don’t say “I hate the heat” or “I detest this music” when you simply dislike them.
Modulate your emotions while describing them. Use language with precision, and you will discover that extreme emotions are conceptual fabrications.
About Tashi Nyima
I am a Dharma student, and aspire to be a companion on the path. I trust that these texts can offer a general approach and basic tools for practicing the Buddha's way to enlightenment.
Soy un estudiante del Dharma, y aspiro a ser un compañero en el sendero. Espero que estos textos ofrezcan a algunos un mapa general y herramientas básicas para la práctica del sendero a la iluminación que nos ofrece el Buda.
Clearly you have distilled the Buddha’s Teachings.
We can always find ways of making things much worse for ourselves by exaggerating our speech and thoughts, but it so easy to avoid this if we take care. So when we say, “I hate this job,” when “I was disappointed by today’s meeting” would be more accurate, we are proliferating around negative emotional states and connecting and amplifying our negative feelings. This often leads us in a downward spiral. If we can instead remember to modulate our responses and say, to follow this example, “I was unhappy with the meeting,” we have a better chance of addressing a particular problem while lessening the likelihood of angst, conflict, and gloom.
Why make things worse for ourselves and others when another, better, way is usually an option? Why not be happy instead? It isn’t always easy, but it is the best choice.
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The fool who knows, knows it is better to avoid proliferating around negative thoughts…