Why is this happening to me?

On occasion, when we find ourselves in unpleasant situations, we ask ourselves: Why is this happening to me? Especially if we have some notions about karma, we would like to pinpoint what particular act has led us here. However, even if this question could be answered specifically, it would not change one iota of our current experience. 

The answers we may obtain when we ask Why me? are not necessarily wrong, but are they helpful? (What, when, and to a lesser extenthow, can be useful. Why seldom is.) 

Knowing that there is no effect without a cause, and that cause and effect are part of one continuum, establishes that the act was indeed ours. It is non-transferable, as is the effect. We cannot enjoy or suffer another’s karma, only our own. 

Assuming responsibility for our previous thoughts, words, and deeds even if we cannot remember them frees us from the tyranny of victimhood in an arbitrary and cruel universe, and establishes us on the path to ultimate liberation.

About Tashi Nyima

I am a Dharma student, and aspire to be a companion on the path. I trust that these texts can offer a general approach and basic tools for practicing the Buddha's way to enlightenment. ||| Soy un estudiante del Dharma, y aspiro a ser un compañero en el sendero. Espero que estos textos ofrezcan a algunos un mapa general y herramientas básicas para la práctica del sendero a la iluminación que nos ofrece el Buda.
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3 Responses to Why is this happening to me?

  1. Colleen says:

    So if we “drop” the “why” then the question becomes: Is this happening to me?

    I wrote a poem as a girl…
    Who are you?
    What do you want?
    -Want? Nothing.
    Why are you here?
    – Drop the why.
    Are you here?

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