A good Dharma friend reminds us that our perception of the mistakes committed by us and others tends to assign blame to them and exculpate ourselves.
If a driver violates the rules of the highway, he is negligent; if we do it, it’s because we’re in a rush. If someone hurls insults at us, she is disrespectful; if we do it, it’s because we are angry, or because they she asked for it. If a friend does not keep a commitment, he is disloyal; if we do it, it could not be helped…
We excuse our faults, claiming that there are circumstances beyond our control, while demanding that others accept full responsibility for theirs, and often even impute “malice aforethought”.
Isn’t it time to recognize our hypocrisy?