Detachment (vairagya) is the absence of craving for, and clinging to, (1) sense pleasures, (2) personal opinions, (3) cultural or familial rules and customs, and (4) notions of ‘me’ and ‘mine’. It flows from the awareness that possessions, relationships, and achievements are impermanent, and cannot produce lasting satisfaction.
Detachment is the realization that searching for sensual and mental gratification is pointless, since it leads only to further craving. It follows the discovery that there is no substantial, permanent, independent ‘ME’ that needs to be protected, promoted, or defended.
Detachment is the practice of observing all experience free from the coloring of our own tendencies, predilections, and desires, that we may better see reality as it is. It is letting go, neither accepting nor rejecting emotions as they arise, but rather allowing them to self-liberate in the momentary nature of the mind.
Where there is no emotional abiding, there is no attachment and aversion.
Where there is neither attachment nor aversion, there is no indifference.
Where there is no attachment, aversion, and indifference, there is no craving.
Where there is no craving, there is no karma (volitional action).
Where there is no karma, there is no suffering.