We wish all sentient beings complete liberation and enlightenment, and seek to assist them as much as we can, but we must recognize our present circumstances, and not place ourselves in situations in which afflicted emotions arise. We are under no obligation to be ‘close’ with anyone.
When we are stronger, and the idiosyncrasies of others do not affect us negatively, we may choose to associate indiscriminately with anyone, but as long as we have strong likes and dislikes, it is best to maintain a respectful distance from those who seemingly disturb us. Otherwise, we will develop aversion and resentment.
Some Sangha members are under the impression that we must socialize among ourselves outside of Dharma activities, but that is not the case. Fellow Sangha members should be treated with respect and kindness whenever we meet, but there is no requirement to pursue the relationship in other settings.
There is nothing involuntary about the Dharma. We associate more intimately only with those with whom we have greater affinity.