Keep a respectful distance

We wish all sentient beings complete liberation and enlightenment, and seek to assist them as much as we can, but we must recognize our present circumstances, and not place ourselves in situations in which afflicted emotions arise. We are under no obligation to be ‘close’ with anyone.  

When we are stronger, and the idiosyncrasies of others do not affect us negatively, we may choose to associate indiscriminately with anyone, but as long as we have strong likes and dislikes, it is best to maintain a respectful distance from those who seemingly disturb us. Otherwise, we will develop aversion and resentment.  

Some Sangha members are under the impression that we must socialize among ourselves outside of Dharma activities, but that is not the case. Fellow Sangha members should be treated with respect and kindness whenever we meet, but there is no requirement to pursue the relationship in other settings.  

There is nothing involuntary about the Dharma. We associate more intimately only with those with whom we have greater affinity.



About Tashi Nyima

I am a Dharma student, and aspire to be a companion on the path. I trust that these texts can offer a general approach and basic tools for practicing the Buddha's way to enlightenment. ||| Soy un estudiante del Dharma, y aspiro a ser un compañero en el sendero. Espero que estos textos ofrezcan a algunos un mapa general y herramientas básicas para la práctica del sendero a la iluminación que nos ofrece el Buda.
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3 Responses to Keep a respectful distance

  1. Cloud says:

    Tashi Nyima: Thank you for everyday prompting us with good advice from the Great Physician, of which this blog post is an example. So many sources of self-help psychological advice provide suggestions that are contradictory, and we who need these promptings are not in a position to judge which are correct and reliable. We can, however, trust the Dharma and be guided reliably by its teachings. Namo Amida Butsu. — Gassho

  2. Raymond says:

    Very wise advise.

  3. MindMindful says:

    Thank you for this post. I think I’ve instinctively followed this advice of keeping a respectful distance, because of having such strong likes/dislikes. But I feel more dispassionate now……… so maybe more relationships will happen?? Anyway — thanks!

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